Transform your life without setting goals

A couple of weeks ago I told you why I think setting goals is a bad idea.

That hasn’t changed. I still think that goals set you up for failure more than success.

1. Goals keep you focused on the destination, instead of allowing you to focus on the journey. Whether your goal is to run a successful business, get in shape, or have a better relationship, what you want to focus on is this present moment – not the future. Lofty goals will leave you discouraged, while too-small ones will leave you not motivated enough. Relying on artificial ideas of what you think the destination will look like is the poorest form of motivation I’ve ever heard of.

2. Goals are completely artificial and are usually created by the ego, which means two things: one, you’re setting a destination for yourself without knowing that it’s the right one (you can probably tell the direction is right, but not necessarily the destination).

3. You’re allowing the ego to take charge by setting up a new construct that it can compare you to (and create lots of shame and guilt around not having reached it, having over-reached it and therefore not aimed far enough, or having landed someplace else altogether – even if you’re actually better off than you would have been had you reached the goal in the first place). Fun fun fun.

4. You’re pushing forward with the destination in sight (and only the destination in sight) without considering where you’re coming from and whether or not your beliefs about yourself and the world actually allow that kind of transformation to take place.

That will bring you tons of challenges and resistance that you don’t have the tools to deal with, so you chalk it up to “need more willpower” or “poor time management” and throw your money at yet another course that gives you a boatload of gimmicks and tricks that cover up the issue like a band-aid but don’t actually do anything about the real underlying problem. (Ask me why I don’t believe in time management issues… another video for a future Monday!)

Since year-end has left me seeing everyone boast about their goals (and the inner me screaming NOOOOOOOO) I’ve put together the framework I’ve used to create some huge changes in my life from the inside out. From the bottom up. From top to bottom.

You get the point.

Since it’s kind of complex to explain all in one video, I take you through a portion of it in today’s Shine your Light Monday vlog, and have prepared the rest for a FREE workshop/webinar you can participate in on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014. It will take place at 7 pm EST/4 pm PST, and you can sign up for it here.

Of course, I will have a recording for you after it’s over. But there’s nothing like being there in person, so show up!

Without further ado… here’s your quick lesson in un-goal setting!

If you haven’t signed up for it yet, go sign up for the workshop here: http://linktoyourself.com/no-goals-workshop

And share it with evvvveeeeerrrryyyyone! Let’s make it a REALLY GOOD 2014!

Tomorrow is my first anniversary with my husband (guess what post is coming up on Thursday…) so I’m wishing you all a Happy New Year full of joy, love, and kisses under the mistletoe!

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Comments

  1. My intention is to be more proactive in the new year and not keep putting things off.I want to start my business and make it a success by serving my customers.I want to enjoy and focus on the journey.
    I want to add value to everyone I have interaction with, smile more and spread joy.
    Happy and joyous new year to you, your husband and all the readers of ‘Link to yourself”.
    Also happy anniversary.

    XOXO

    Raj

    • Raj,

      That’s awesome! There seems to be a lot of fear of putting yourself out there going around. I know that you can get through it and make this happen! Just focus on providing value, one step at a time. You have added great value to the Link to Yourself community, thank you for that!

      Have a happy & joyful celebration tonight!

      Hugs,
      Laura

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