3 things you don’t know about your past that can change your future

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Whenever I get asked by people what coaches do that’s so different than therapy, I always tell them that we help the person move forward, get from where they are to where they want to be. We don’t dig as deeply into the past.

I recently realized that’s a bit of a lie, to be honest. Because you can’t change your future without digging into your past. We may do it far less than therapy, but it’s a necessary part of our inner work.

I was talking to my mom the other day – helping her understand why she had a negative judgment towards someone else. Even though we tried to avoid going into the past, in the end we had to go there – because it was related to something she hadn’t accepted about herself.

When I lost 20 lbs, I had to dig deep and understand how my story had created my current reality – and by realizing how I was trying to protect myself through the extra weight, I was able to let it go and lose the pounds fairly quickly.

In today’s episode, I’m showing you three simple truths about your past that can transform your future. [Read more...]

4 tips for a peaceful + loving Christmas dinner

Merry Christmas (almost)!

Christmas is a time of joy, gifts, love… and lots of family gatherings, which always tends to make sparks fly.

With all of the intrusive questions and judgmental comments, and you have a bomb cocktail of feelings.

But this year it can be different for you. You can be calm, composed, and loving. You can have a peaceful Christmas where every unwanted comment rolls off your back and you get to actually enjoy being with your family.

Doesn’t that sound like something worth having? [Read more...]

Get wildly better results by doing this one thing before you start working

How do you want to feel when you’re working? Inspired? Creative? Charged? On Fire? Insightful? Connected?

How do you really feel when you’re working?

Anxious? Stressed out?

Like you’re not getting enough done? Like you need results ASAP?

Worried that your client will ask you the one thing you won’t be able to answer?

Begging for an insight to help you build a good course that sells?

All of these feelings have their root in stress and fear.

What do you think happens when you sit down to work and the first thing you feel is stress? [Read more...]

How to create amazing stuff

I have gone missing for the past month.

Yes, it’s been a month.

Yes, I’m ashamed. I’m shocked. I’m upset.

No, I didn’t realize it. Time just flew by. One week, I was thinking “oh, I’ll just skip this week…” then I was thinking “well I still didn’t write anything good enough this week, so I’ll let it be…”

The third week I just avoided even thinking about it.

I hid behind being busy, being tired, and most of all being afraid.

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How disconnected are you?

We think we’re connected. We think that, just because we have access to 500 friends on Facebook, we are connected to them.

But we’re not.

When you feel unhappy, stuck, like something’s just missing – you’re disconnected. You’re disconnected from yourself, and disconnected from others.

Liking someone’s cute baby pictures on Facebook does not mean being connected to them, no matter how much it may superficially feel that way.

Puttering around in the same kitchen at work as someone else does not mean that you are connected with them. Neither does making small talk mean that.

No.

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Self-love: Aren’t you forgetting something?

This blog post is part of the Week of Self-Love hosted by Anne-Sophie Reinhardt of annesophie.us
 

Throughout the past few years, as I’ve gotten more and more acquainted with my intuition, I’ve grown to love my heart and hate my mind.

9-25-13 Self-loveEvery time I write an article and my heart is singing the words to me, my mind eventually interferes. When I re-read the draft later, I can always tell where the mind started talking and the heart stopped.

Every time I meditate, or sit watching a sunset in awe of its beauty, just when I reach that peak of intensity, my mind jumps right in with some trivial thought.

It’s like a demanding, spoiled little brat. One that constantly pulls on your sleeve asking for attention or throws rotten tomatoes at you as you’re lounging on the beach.

I’m also very introspective. Which means I investigate and observe everything my mind does. And, the more I do it, the more I grow to dislike the ego and its manifestation through my mind. Mindless actions, poor decisions, bad habits… you name it.

And for a very long time I kept thinking of my mind just like that – like a dangerous temptation, a pesky annoyance. Something I was constantly trying to control, to shut down, to turn down.

Until one fateful day. [Read more...]

Our road trip honeymoon adventure

I’m back, y’all!

Sunset in Iowa

Sunset in Iowa

What a beautiful road trip we had! And how many things we learned from it! One of many adventures in our life as newlyweds.

I know I was supposed to post this yesterday… but we just returned a couple of days ago and I’ve been so busy being utterly lazy and going through our pictures that I simply didn’t feel this post was ready until now!

Here’s what we learned… [Read more...]